Article Today, Hyderabad:
In modern society, many women feel compelled to excel in every aspect of life — as professionals, mothers, and partners. This constant pursuit of perfection, while celebrated, often turns into a source of immense emotional strain. Writer and entrepreneur Amanda Goetz’s personal story illustrates this growing struggle. Driven by a desire to be flawless in all roles, she eventually collapsed under the weight of mental exhaustion, an experience that forced her to confront the illusion of being “number one.”
A Turning Point
Goetz’s breakdown became a turning point. She realised that blending office work, household duties, and personal life without boundaries was unsustainable. The moment she began compartmentalising — separating work from home and personal responsibilities — her life regained balance. She now advocates this approach as a tool for mental well-being. The obsession with being perfect, she argues, is not ambition but a form of “toxic grit” that can destroy one’s peace of mind.
Redefining Success
Through her writings and talks, Goetz emphasises that success does not mean being the best at everything. Rather, it lies in identifying what truly matters and directing energy there. As a mother of three and a senior executive, she acknowledges that balance comes not from overachievement but from prioritisation. “We must learn to say no to what drains us and yes to what aligns with our purpose,” she says.
The Art of Letting Go
A key practice she recommends is the “brain dump” — writing down all troubling thoughts and pending tasks to free the mind from clutter. According to Goetz, this simple act can ease tension and improve focus. She also suggests adjusting expectations: if one feels only 30 per cent capable on a given day, performing at that capacity is enough. The pursuit of constant perfection, she warns, leads to burnout rather than fulfilment.
The Courage to Say No
Goetz believes that true confidence lies in the ability to reject unnecessary demands. Saying “no,” she explains, is not arrogance but self-respect. By refusing to overextend themselves, individuals protect their time, energy, and mental health. Her message is clear — letting go of the need to please everyone allows space for genuine contentment.
A New Way Forward
Amanda Goetz’s philosophy resonates with professionals around the world navigating the pressures of modern life. Her experience underscores the importance of balance over brilliance, progress over perfection, and clarity over chaos. In a culture that glorifies constant striving, her message offers a calm reminder: fulfilment begins when one stops chasing the illusion of being number one.
